Monday, April 30, 2012

Women and guilt....

Ever feel like this poor lady looks?  I often do.  As women, we feel like we have to be all, do all and care for all.  It can be exhausting.  Why do we do this?  I can't speak for everyone, but I am a nurturer and an educator.  I have a very strong desire to make those I love happy.  My type A personality also rears its ugly head at times.  My house should always be spotless, my child should be dressed perfectly, my grades have to be get the drift. 

So far this morning I have:
Taken my child to school
Swept front porch
Cleaned windows on front of house
Hung ferns and hummingbird feeders
Pulled weeds from landscaping at front of house
Done three loads of laundry
One load of dishes
Straightened up Master Bedroom
Straightened up babygirls room
Planned our meals for the week
vaccumed house
Gave dog a bath

That 's a lot of work, but even as I sit here, I have a million more to-do's rolling around in my mind.  There's always constant guilt--always the feeling that I should have accomplished more.  Maybe I am a bit more over the top than some, but I don't think I'm too far off the "norm".  It sickens me how much our world celebrates perfection.  We should all be a certain size, have a large home with a manicured lawn, perfect children, etc., all the while feeling completed and happy.  It makes me want to scream!  My six year old already talks about being fat on a daily basis and it breaks my heart.  As a momma, I want to make everything better-maybe perfect, but I cannot.  We must realize and tell ourselves often that noone on this earth has ever attained perfection!  The only pure and perfect aspect of our lives is our relationship with CHRIST.  So, I encourage all you mommas, wives, sisters and friends to chill out a bit today and love the you that GOD created.  No matter how imperfect we are, we were created in his perfect image and that should be our fullfillment.  Easier said than done, I know!

I'll leave you with a quote that I think is so perfect...!  Made me laugh today...

Erica Jong:
Show me a woman who doesn’t feel guilty and I’ll show you a man.

1 comment:

  1. Wow! You've been busy! It always makes me sad when women think they need something to make them feel good enough. I struggle with the need to look perfect on a minute by minute basis. I wish I had more of your type A though! You're a good wife, Momma, and doing what you love. Don't feel second rate or guilty and give babygirl tons of hugs. All will work out. It's just the stage of life you're in right now. Hugs!